Old Flames Burn Hotter

Dear John Dear,

Recently I ran into an ex-boyfriend of mine that I haven't seen in years, he
is getting married and I just got married. But every time I talk to him I
feel the same way I did years ago when we dated. I enjoy talking with him. As I sit here, I think I am going insane because I
adore this person and don't want to scare him off as a great friend, but I
can't help but to think and feel a certain way. What do you think? Am I nuts?

Sincerely,
Rushing Emotions


Dear Rushing Emotions,

No, You're not nuts. Although you are starting to walk on shaky ground. Your emotions sound a little mixed as well as rushing. You say that you don't want to scare him off as a friend, despite these rushing emotions? Unless you think that your emotions will get the better of you, and over power your mind and heart, then you shouldn't have a problem with a social relationship. Everyone thinks of the reasons why they got together with someone. What they usually leave out is how it ended. Too many times, people will "re-discover" an ex, and all they can think about is the good times. The problem with that is people rarely change, and even if they do old habits die hard, and where theres an old flame there is old smoke. People do grow, and people do change. And who knows maybe you were one of the lucky few where they relationship ended just to end. Even so; as you said your happily married, you have found someone that completes you. If he's getting married then you should hope that he has done the same.
So to tie this up, If you think there is a chance that this could move into more than old friends catching up, then you should probably try to cool the flames. At least till you have your heads in order.

Hope it all turns out in the end,
John Dear